A Valentine to My Wife
On Valentine’s Day and every day, family, friends, and loved ones support and care for those living with diabetes. Scott Johnson, who lives with type 1 diabetes and blogs at scottsdiabetes.com, took time out on this special day to honor his wife, who is his top supporter in life and life with diabetes.
Every day I think about how blessed I am to have my wife at my side. Of course, like a typical guy, I don't tell her often enough how much she means to me. I'm taking advantage of Valentine's Day to do just that.
Scott Johnson surrounded by all of his Valentines!
To Tabitha, my wife of nearly fifteen years, and center of my heart for more than twenty-two (and counting):
I didn't have any idea how important you would become when we started dating. As teenagers, how could either of us know what life had in store? But I knew that it didn't matter, as long as I was with you.
We grew up together, learning about life and work and responsibility. We learned about enjoying each other’s company and spending time together. And we learned about diabetes. Though it had been a part of my life for over a decade when we connected, it continued to teach us lessons every day.
As the years went on, we learned that diabetes would challenge us in many ways. Some physical, some financial, some mental – often all three at the same time. What might drive many people apart somehow pulled us closer. I have learned that when the diabetes storm rages, you are the shelter I seek.
You are a natural caregiver. I felt it before I knew it, and watching you raise our children only puts it on display for the world to see. Somehow, you know exactly how to right the world when it's spinning out of control.
Sometimes, there is work to be done, a task or chore that appeals to your nature as a fixer. Just as often, there are situations that neither of us can fix, and you know that just being there is best. You help me work through the confusing maze of emotions, and help me see things from a different perspective. Sometimes you know to call me on my nonsense, which is just what's needed to get me over that obstacle. Your patience amazes me. Whether you're putting up with one of the kids, or tolerating my bad and misdirected attitude, you always know when to just let things go and when to push back.
When I'm struggling with something, you give me the room I need to work through it. It's hard for you to do, because you were born to fix and solve problems, and it hurts you to see me struggle. Your instincts tell you to get involved and help me, but you know it's not always best.
I'm blown away by your intelligence. Watching your brain work always puts a smile on my face. I'm so blessed to have married a woman with beauty and brains. I'm doubly blessed that you've passed the best of both along to our kids.
Your bravery inspires me; quietly showing through in your work, in our home, in everything you do. When I'm faced with a scary and difficult situation, I often ask myself what you would do, and I let that answer guide my actions.
My heart still skips a beat when I see you, and my breath often catches when our eyes meet. It's never changed, and I hope it never does.
As I think about growing old together, I know that we'll have our fair share of challenges. Diabetes may be a big player in some of them, but I've learned through my time with you that, as long as we're together, we can get through most anything.
Thank you for being the love of my life.
Scott Johnson is living with type 1 diabetes and blogs at scottsdiabetes.com. Johnson is a paid contributor for The DX. All opinions contained in this article reflect those of the contributor, and not of Sanofi US, its employees, agencies, or affiliates.
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